Matching engagement rings are no longer reserved for traditional “his and hers” sets. Today, queer couples are redefining what it means to have coordinating engagement rings, creating combinations that reflect both individuality and connection. Whether you’re a femme/femme couple, a masc/masc duo, or somewhere beautifully in between, your rings can mirror your relationship without ever feeling cookie-cutter.
At VENVS, we design rings that don’t follow rules—they follow you. Here’s how to find a pairing that feels perfect.
Femme/Femme Ring Pairings
Femme couples often gravitate toward sparkle, intentional design, and whimsical details—but that doesn’t mean both rings have to be the same. One of you might love a dramatic cluster ring, while the other prefers a minimalist solitaire. Choosing the same gold color or stone type can tie both designs together effortlessly. For example, two rings in rose gold with different settings still feel deeply connected. Moss agate, salt and pepper diamonds, and moissanite are dreamy choices for couples drawn to fairytale aesthetics. You can also incorporate personal touches like a shared engraving, or birthstones tucked inside the band. The result is romantic, meaningful, and totally custom to your story.
Masc/Masc Ring Pairings
For masc couples, coordinating rings often lean into sleek, bold, or understated styles. This doesn’t mean your rings need to be plain—texture, weight, and stone shape all offer ways to add personality. You might both choose thick gold bands, but differentiate them with a polished finish on one and a hammered texture on the other. Or maybe one of you opts for a low-profile setting with a small embedded diamond, while the other skips the stone but keeps the same silhouette. Choosing platinum or white gold creates a clean, modern base to build from. It’s all about subtlety and strength—rings that hold weight and meaning without needing to shout.
Masc/Femme Ring Pairings
When one partner has a more masc style and the other leans femme, coordinating rings become a creative balancing act—and that’s where the magic happens. Start by choosing a shared design element, like the same metal or gemstone, and then let each ring express your individual vibe. A deep-colored sapphire could appear in a delicate claw setting for one ring and a bold bezel setting for the other. Maybe one of you loves a chunky asymmetrical band, while the other wants a curved design that complements it visually. These pairings work best when the rings feel like they’re in conversation with each other—not identical, but clearly connected.
Designing Rings That Feel Like You
No matter your dynamic, there are endless ways to make your engagement rings feel like a pair. Some couples choose the same gemstone in different cuts. Others opt for hidden details, like matching engravings inside the band or a single accent stone that appears in both rings. You might even design both rings at the same time, pulling elements from each other’s styles to create subtle symmetry.
What matters most is that your rings reflect your relationship—not what’s expected. You don’t have to match perfectly. You just have to feel seen.
Coordinating Rings, Reimagined
At VENVS, we create custom and ready-to-ship engagement rings for queer couples who want something that feels like home. Whether you’re masc/masc, femme/femme, masc/femme, or none of the above, we’ll help you create coordinating rings that are as unique as your love. From bold bands to whimsical curves, asymmetrical settings to timeless metals, your rings can honor your individuality and your connection—together.
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